And then there is the issue of stigma- the stigma surrounding sexuality leads it to be viewed as something only in the domain of the subordinate- or those in whose domain sexuality is are subordinated- not worthy of the need for consent. Of course, we are all sexual, capable of desiring and being desired, and should feel no shame in this. If we all truly believed this, could we put an end to rape? In my first post on this subject, I wasn't speaking specifically about sexual trauma, but trauma in general. I don't think it's hard to understand how we are shaped by the traumatic experiences of our parents, teachers, siblings, coworkers, friends, and community members. When we develop an identity, such as gender, and when that identity seems to come with a traumatic experience, such as rape, it affects us whether or not we have directly experienced it. And when we experience rape, or are affected by the experience of rape, does this affect our gender identity?