afterthoughts to the afterthoughts: The paradox is: sexuality is something that some (desired objects) have while others (desiring subjects) take. Desire, while associated with the powerful, also indicates a lack of something possessed by the less powerful. Does this idea (which of course can only be true as a social construct and for only as long as we play into the social construct- everyone is sexual) also reinforce sexual violence? Everyone is sexual but, generally, sex is more satisfying with another person. The dominant must assert dominance- must admit they are incomplete on their own- and the discomfort in this leads to violence.